Oh How I Love You!
If romance could build houses
Would love build a home?
If mice were called mouses
We’d leave mooses alone.
Here’s my heart for you
Take it and do as you must.
I hope you won’t make me blue
My heart is easy to bust.
Be mine, please do
My heart’s all aglow.
Be yours? Who you?
Sorry, the answer is NO!
You’ve heard the story of Dick and Jane, and we’ve all heard about Tom, Dick, and Harry. This is a once upon a time story about Dick and Jane who live in Never-Never Land. In Never-Never Land the heroine meets the hero, they fall in love; the hero kills all the dragons and they live happily ever after. The end? Not quite! Let’s go back to the beginning. Okay, in the beginning god created… No, not that beginning, Dick and Jane’s “us” beginning. A character study of our old friends might look like this:
- Dick: the hero and a real he-man who knows how to hold his liquor – and a lot of it! And, of course, he makes his own rules – no one’s going to tell Him what to do. He is also very daring and he’s always in command. He doesn’t need anybody and he doesn’t feel anything. He’s macho! He’s the tall dark stranger, “sigh, pant, pant.”
- Jane: the heroine. Almost nothing is too much trouble or takes too much time, if it will help Dick. He’s hard to please but she’s willing to wait, hope, and try harder to placate. She has an all expending, reckless yearning for Dick. She is consumed with him, willing to endure pain and distress for him. She knows she loves him because of the agitation, abandon, tragedy, anguish, suspense, perplexity, and longing she feels on his account. After all, every love story she’s ever read told her this was how she would feel. She’s a good hearted woman in love with – ? – well, who knows what – anyway she’s a good hearted woman. She’s very helpful. Does she really find this dizzying relationship exciting? No, but we hope the reader will. We can hardly wait to see how this “loving”, helpful, unselfish innocent turns our cruel, indifferent, abusive, emotionally unstable hero into a kind, stable, reliable man who cares about her. Can we?
- Tom: the villain. He tells Jane she is helping Dick out of the need to control him. He is an irritating liar who makes Jane’s life miserable by telling her that she is afraid of being left alone and will do anything to keep Dick – to make him need her. He tells her she doesn’t know what it is like to be loved and is afraid to try to find out so she would rather be involved in a situation that is chaotic, uncertain, and emotionally painful. He is a total bore! He says Jane is using her obsession with dick to avoid her own pain, emptiness, fear, and anger. He insists she finds Dick exciting because he is unstable, challenging because he is unreliable, romantic because he is unpredictable, charming because he is immature and mysterious because he is moody. He further states that she wouldn’t be happy with a man who wasn’t cold, inadequate, and angry because she couldn’t fix him and suffer for him.
- Harry: Jane’s best friend and confident. She really likes Dick and encourages their “Us-ship”. She becomes dick’s champion and confidant. Aren’t they lucky?
The story gets more confusing and less uplifting as we go along. It doesn’t leave us with much hope for a lasting, loving, romantic relationship that is beneficial to both partners. It leaves us wondering if there is such a thing as romantic love and lasting marriage. To find the answer we will have to go back to the beginning
In the beginning God made the rules for the benefit of his creation; but the rules are all messed up because of sin and the fall, and the muddle the world is in today. How is a Christian to know what to do about love and marriage? Is love and romance something a Christian has a right to look forward to?
To be continued